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In Memorial

There was a service on the evening of Friday June 3rd in Greg's hometown of Lutherville, MD.

A second memorial service was held Saturday, June 25 at 2:00 p.m. at Greg's church in Sudbury, MA

Follow these links to read two articles that appeared in the Boston Globe and MetroWest about Greg's life and the Sudbury service. Boston Globe Metrowest Daily News

Dawn Desert Hike in Greg's Memory
On May 25th, about 20 of Greg’s friends and colleagues, gathered together in Tucson Arizona for the Conference on Environmental Conflict Resolution, took a sunrise hike into desert (organized by Cindy Cooke). Among the flowering Saguaro cacti, a lone owl returning from the night’s hunt, and a few early morning hummingbirds, we joined hands in a prayer circle in honor of Greg. After sharing many kind words and reflecting on our own private memories, we were able to reach a consensus that Greg would have loved being with us at this special spot. (Although, we also agreed, it was more likely that he would have arrived after pulling one of his all-nighters rather than rolling out of bed at 4 AM with the rest of us).

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4/13/2005
We have set this page up as a place where all of us who knew and loved Greg can share our thoughts, memories, and stories. It's also a place where those who are working hard to find Greg and organize memorial services and other gatherings can keep everyone up to date.

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Peace be with Greg, wherever he may be.

- Jonathan Raab

4/13/2005
Jonathan,
I have never met you, but THANK YOU for this website. I met Greg back at Western Washington University in Bellingham Washington I guess about 25 years (or 25 minutes) ago. He was such an inspiring and charismatic friend. My friends Ron, Howard, David and others all were really young together. I will never forget dinners, hikes, games of RISK, and so many funny and tender moments.
Years later, he tried to get us all together so many times. He came to my oldest daughters Bat Mitz...Read the full post

- Marcia Levin

4/15/2005
Ah Greg, my old friend. I grieve the loss of your wonderful spirit, great humor and true vision. Thanks for the conversation under the shade tree the last time we saw each other, with the unual honesty, deep feeling and laughter. Not many people have the combination of virtues you possessed, in spades. I hated seeing your body suffer so. I loved that, despite your injuries, that you still had the glint in your eyes; they really did sparkle, my friend. I hate that you died that way that you ...Read the full post

- John Gamman

4/15/2005
I first met Greg when he worked at the MA Office of Dispute Resolution. He was brought in to help referee a team of regulators on environmental cleanup. He got us through some very bad situations and made a world of difference for me.
After that we became good friends. He was a gracious and charismatic man. The world is diminished with his passing. Greg, I am pained by your loss but am hopeful that you are at peace and are not weighed down anymore.

- Lynne Welsh

4/15/2005
Thank you Greg, for all the conversations and straight talk, capturing moments in the out-of-doors (Wash. DC sunlight,Tucson desert breezes, San Diego ocean surf. You said what was difficult in our work,and you gave confidential support and humor to so many of us. You were the quintessential mediator. I will miss you. May you be in Peace.

- Alice Shorett

4/15/2005
Dearest Greg - I hope the winds are pushing you forward as they did a few years ago through the mountains of Santa Fe. We hiked on the Chamiso trail filled with warmth, dogs barking and the voices of good friends. You stopped for the blessing of earth and wind that you shared with us "el espiritu". When next we hiked alone on Atalaya I became concerned for you on the trail filled with pebbles and attitude, canes flying, sky ablaze in red and purple. I went ahead to show you the way and lande...Read the full post

- Rosemary Romero

4/17/2005
Dear Greg,

Fellow Western Washington alum, fellow mediator, fellow seeker... of opportunities to learn and of opportunities to share. Each time we saw one another these last years, I always came away a little stronger, inspired. You have been honest about your pain, and at the same time always communicated a vision of and determination to see your life as more than the difficulties you faced. I know from personal experience in my family what it can mean to be in such pain that the only...Read the full post

- Gail Bingham

4/17/2005
all of you friends who travaled with greg in various places i am joining you i am joan his mom in baltimore just got our visiting place from kim o will be with you all the time the baltimore service will take place on june 3 friday evening in greg s old church and mine. it will be a gathering of community of all of us who have walked with greg in various times and various places. being with kim leslie and david has been a blessing with love for now joan k

- joan kolobielski

4/17/2005
Well, Greg – I guess this will have to substitute for the final conversation we never had. Your departure is too immediate for me to process, but I know that at some point I’ll be in the midst of some otherwise mundane task when I’ll unexpectedly think of you and be forced to pause. I’ll find some comfort in that moment, a combination of fondness for our episodic friendship and grief for my loss – a sense of closure and resolution that looks pretty elusive right now. In short, I will look for...Read the full post

- Steve Garon

4/18/2005
Brother Greg,
Although we have only known each other since we met at Kripalu this past Christmas, I feel like there has been a deep bond between us for years. I was so pleased when people often assumed we were brothers, and in all our emails, we addressed each other as Brother Greg and Brother Ken. I'll always remember how you eased my pain when you visited me in New York in February. I was in a dark place at the time and you put your arm on my shoulder, looked at me with those kind blue eye...Read the full post

- Ken Mirkin

4/18/2005
Some photos of Greg and friends from our Bellingham, Washington days can be seen at:
www.howardlevin.com/photos/greg/greg.html - I am happy to include more photos if folks are willing to send them to me with captions.

- Howard Levin

4/18/2005
Dear Greg -
I feel really blessed that i had the chance to work with you two years ago on Cape Cod, after too many years of not crossing paths. We were supposed to get together again after Thailand, but you were always too busy with great work and travel...you were always honest about your pain and struggles, but never let them define you. It made me smile to watch you 'work the crowd' during a tough discussion - your confidence in yourself and the people around the table was both touching ...Read the full post

- Fara Courtney

4/18/2005
This evening, after work, I planted the amaryllis that Greg sent to us by mail back in February. It graced our dining room with blooms for about 6 weeks. Big trumpet-shaped flowers.

When it came to flowers, there was nothing shy about our buddy Greg.

More later.
From warm southern climes, but a big part of Spring is missing,

- John Stephens

4/19/2005
Greg was one of the first volunteer leaders at the Association for Conflict Resolution I really bonded with. Greg was inspirational and truly cared about ACR. I was looking forward to working with him in the future and meeting with him at the annual conference. I will miss him!

- Mark Wilson

4/20/2005
Greg, my mentor, my partner in crime, my friend, how I miss you! I remain so stunned, that someone who has inspired me and countless others to reach high, is no longer among us; to grow old together, to laugh, and to cry. From our first meeting at the MA Office of Dispute Resolution, to our time in the sea kayaks, I knew you were someone special. I'll always cherish our time together. I hope you have found peace my friend. Shalom

- Harry Manasewich

4/21/2005
friends your memories of greg - he was my baby- give me the love i need now

- joan kolobielski - greg s mom

4/21/2005
Joan,
I was feeling self-conscious about thinking aloud in this forum but your note above gives me the reason to put that aside. Your son offered so many people so much more in his time among us than most could offer in ten life times. Among his exceptional qualities, one that struck me was his fearlessness in the face of other people's darkest moments and his ability to reach out at tose times. Even with that capacity, the images of him that most naturally come to my mind involve every s...Read the full post

- ellie tonkin

4/21/2005
For Gregory - From the first time I saw you, you filled the room with vibrancy and humor... a 1984 MIT classroom of 50 tense students. Over the years, your character and charisma only grew. Thank you for your love and enormous generosity. Thank you for your devotion... to those around you, to your betterment, to your struggle and to our field. Your contributions and teachings in all these areas were already immeasurable.

- Barbara Stinson

4/21/2005
Some memories from the Massachusetts Office of Dispute Resolution (MODR) years…

Drinking champagne in MODR’s conference room to celebrate the successful resolution of a case.

His train-wreck of an office; the letters on his computer keyboard stuck together they’d been doused so with Coca Cola many times.

His love for the “all you can eat” Sushi bar in the South End of Boston.

Constructing a cake out of donuts for a colleague’s birthday.

His enthusiasm for his ...Read the full post

- Karen Sontag

4/21/2005
Gumby, While people touch our lives in transforming ways every day, there are only a few whose guidance is quite obvious. They are the ones who turn us toward what we are already seeking even when we ourselves didn't know it. My French teacher was one, and you are the other who changed my life by pointing me to what I never thought it was possible to find. How perfect that the first place you ever took me was Paris. If there's a heaven I know you'll be waiting there with a Scrabble game. Poke...Read the full post

- Leslie

4/21/2005
I have known Greg for many years. Although we were not what you would call close friends, our paths would often cross. On occasion he played poker at my house and once, when he was in the hospital for one of his numerous major operations, a group of us took the cards and chips and had a game on his hospital bed (we got some strange stares from the nurses at the Baptist Hospital). On another occasion, at his home, he filled out some paperwork for an application I was making. He had a porch full o...Read the full post

- Richard Griesel

4/21/2005
My dear, dear Greg. How I miss you. I remember the instant we met at Kripalu in December, how we talked at meals, how we couldn't contain ourselves at the silent breakfasts and so, with Ken, had to eat across the hall. There was so much to say, to listen to, to catch up on each other's lives. Oh how we quickly came to realize that we both genuinely wanted to and liked listening to each other, a feeling we shared with such pleasure that we often laughed about it. I knew you for such a short t...Read the full post

- Eric

4/22/2005
mom again i start my day with your communications with greg i am so sad and yet so happy to have all these great memories about him and now added his footprints with all of you, some i have met others just shadows in my life

- joan k

4/24/2005
I knew Greg through our work together at the Massachusetts Office of Dispute Resolution. We were colleagues there for three years in the early 90s during which the agency went through traumatic changes in leadership, ongoing budget crises, office renovation, and what felt like exponential expansion in both the nature and volume of services we provided. For an organization set up to resolve other people's conflicts, we had many of our own -- it was a "pressure-cooker." What I recall when I think...Read the full post

- -- Will Hathaway

4/25/2005
Dearest Greg, my mentor, my brother, my soul mate. Your brilliance in work, play, and friendship will, to me, be forever unmatched. Your grace and humor amidst unbearable pain was beyond courageous and I am grateful to you for enduring as long as you have. Among the many gifts you share is your mastery of connecting with others – quickly, deeply, generously and ever so sincerely. And in your absence and through your example, we are now connecting with each other in your spirit and through ou...Read the full post

- Kimbee

4/25/2005
When you were born, you cried and the world rejoiced. Live your life in a manner so that when you die, the world cries and you rejoice.

- Native American Proverb

4/26/2005
I am an old friend of Greg's from MIT days. His energy and zest for life were contagious then. These are the memories I have of him and it these memories I will keep. I remember the shock in learning that he read the NY Times from an early age (an age at which I was probably still playing with dolls!). Brilliant, sparkling eyes, handsome, a bundle of enthusiasm for all that life held. He was an inspiration then. And he is an inspiration now.

- Kelly Quinn Popejoy

4/26/2005
Greg sent the following email to me (and other friends) in August, just a month or so after I finished radiation. Julianna

From Greg:

Words Some of Us Seem to Live By

Thanks to a witty friend, here's an inspired perspective. Self-serving perhaps, strangely satisfying...

"Life's goal is not to arrive at your grave safely in a well preserved
body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting, 'Holy Shit,
what a ride!'"

- Juliana Birkhoff (posting an email Greg sent )

4/28/2005
In Los Angeles last week I heard the sad news of Greg's passing. I will miss his wise counsel and his acutely mordant and sometimes cute, over-the-top sense of humor.

Greg and I became friends in the 80's when he started at MODR. We socialized at sector meetings and related outings. Three brief memories for me paint the picture of the life force we all tapped into when Greg was in the room.

...Fall of 1996, at the conclusion of the first SPIDR Youth Conference in Anaheim (follow...Read the full post

- Bob Jones

4/29/2005
Dear Greg: I hardly knew you -- the few encounters we had left me feeling connected. You worked with me and together we were creating collaborative opportunities. You shared your dreams and hearts desires as if you had known me for a very long time. Your trust in me and ability to listen and hear my pain and frustrations with my own situation in life left me renewed in ways I never shared with you. Your inspiration sparkles in my life today and always! Thank you Greg for touching me and lea...Read the full post

- Don Greenstein

5/3/2005
It just doesn't seem it can be true, does it? I want to pick up the phone and check in.... Look up at the sky tonight, and know that special twinkling is Greg winking at us all, wishing us all the best (and that we may avoid disputes - let's work it out!). Know that he's in a better place now, and that his memories will always be with us. Rest in peace, my colleague and friend.... we'll never forget you and your contributions to each and every one of us.

- Mary Sanderson

5/5/2005
Greg was in my life for one year. I met him when he facilitated a meeting for my kayak club, and have only talked online with him since we chatted away a lunch at the DNC. He was so present in each moment I ever spent with him. I think it must be a strange balancing act to feel the world so acutely, and I will always love him for sharing a glimpse of what a meaningful, compassionate life could look like. I will carry his sparkle and encouragement and caring and fast friendship and love for fun w...Read the full post

- Bethany Ericson

5/5/2005
When I heard about Greg’s apparent suicide, I felt many different emotions and I immediately thought about the following verse from the song “Goodnight Irene”:

Sometimes I live in the country
Sometimes I live in the town
Sometimes it takes a great notion
To jump into the river and drown.

This verse always struck me as a non-sequitur—an abrupt and inexplicable transition from living to deciding to die. I knew Greg suffered physically and psychologically, yet he still alway...Read the full post

- Jonathan Raab

5/6/2005
via phone and email we are drawing together recolections and reflections for greg s service at towson/baltimore. my own theme is joy and justice. email me ideas and thoughts soon. p.eggy will be sending you details i can be reached by phone or email with love mother joan

- joan kolobielski

5/6/2005
5/6/05

For Greg-We didn't know each very well. We were "conference buddies", seeing each other at the annual SPIDR gatherings. I rembember you always had a warm and genuine greeting. That embracing smile and eyes that exuded the joy of a renewed friendship.

Thinking of those gatherings, there was one in particular that comes to mind. It was the SPIDR conference of 1999 I believe and Greg had a reception for colleagues and friends at his mother's home in Baltimore. In the bac...Read the full post

- Wally Warfield

5/6/2005
I feel fortunate to have many warm memories of Greg. I first met Greg in 1991 when I joined MODR, we were both still relatively young, with an excitement and shared passion for our work. Greg is part of my best memories of MODR and the sense of community we all shared back then. Although we worked very hard, we still found time to spend many a fun afternoon chilling and laughing at the Red Hat. At Christmas Greg always insisted on sharing his God awful fruit cake with the office.
What I w...Read the full post

- Jeannie Adams

5/6/2005
I e-mailed Greg the first week in April to tell him I had finally moved to his fine state and see when we could get together for some good banter. I was then told by a fellow EPP newletter committeee member the sad news. I have just been trying to absorb this last act of Greg's by reading through the messages every couple of days ever since and being an observer. Then I saw Juliana Birkhoff's posting, and it hit home because I was that friend who sent Greg the message she spoke of about ".....Read the full post

- Forsyth Kineon

5/7/2005
On Tuesday of this week I learned that Gregory’s body was found - a month to the day after he vanished. Thus ends a period in which denial could forestall grief.

I first met Greg in 1991, when he was chair of the ADR Committee at the Boston Bar Association and I was an ADR newbie – just learning the ropes of mediation and arbitration. I was impressed. As he facilitated the discussions in the monthly meetings that he expertly led for two years, he missed nothing. Before the meeting was...Read the full post

- David Hoffman

5/7/2005
I met Greg through Leslie three summers ago.
I will never forget sitting on the porch in the back looking at the garden with all the lovely colors and rejoicing that this was a perfect summer day made complete by two wonderful people Leslie and Greg.
I will never forget that radiant smile as Greg came down to greet us and I knew in an instant that I was meeting a very special person who took interest in wonderful conversation and laughter.
it was a great day that I will never forget.Read the full post

- Melissa Glaister

5/9/2005
I just got the news through a friend and colleague, David Hoffman, that Greg has passed away. I am deeply saddened. I knew Greg for about a year when I was fresh out of college, making my way into the working world in Cambridge, MA, at the Consensus Building Institute. Greg instantly became a friend and valued mentor. He saw promise in me and gave me tasks and responsibilities that I appreciated. He ultimately helped me find a new job with David Hoffman, the best boss I've ever had. Greg ...Read the full post

- Stacey Bran

5/11/2005
A surprise visit yesterday from my dear friend Karen Sontag brought me the news of Gregory's passing. I'm still stunned, so I apologize in advance if my memories come across as mere ramblings.

I met Gregory in 1992 at the Massachusetts Office of Dispute Resolution. My first week there I felt I was the "lowly" receptionist in the midst of this brilliant group of professionals. It was a busy week, full of transitions - the Executive Director was gone, replaced by our beloved Jane Wells...Read the full post

- Cyndi Donnelly

5/14/2005
Two, short messages for the moment.

David H. - thanks for your lovely set of memories and reflections. Like you, I had been awaiting a final determination - the finding of a body - before I gave up on one of my many hope-against-hope fantasies; that Greg had simply chosen a dramatic way to remake his life as an undercover CIA agent.

So, May 13 was when I stood in my synagogue when the Mourner's Kaddish was chanted. The rabbi invites those who have lost a family member of loved one...Read the full post

- John Stephens

5/14/2005
Second short message. I invite Andy Sachs and others to add to my recollection of a soulful visit to a synagogue in Newport, Rhode Island. Greg came up with the idea for attending Friday night services during an Environmental and Public Policy Section conference in 1999? It was April- good rates for a hotel, and still nice enough to walk along the rocky shore.

Greg, Andy and I -- and others, please chime in! -- went to the oldest synagogue in the US. Very traditional: men and women seated...Read the full post

- John Stephens

5/14/2005
Final one of my flurry.
After work on Friday, May 13th, I know some DC-area friends were gathering at a watering hole to celebrate Greg, and to renew the bonds they have in today's life. I had a nice call from Bill Potapchuk as he was in route. I hope those folks will take a moment or two to share what they can from that gathering. I'm done!

- John Stephens

5/15/2005
Lorraine and I first met Greg in the late 60's through his mother in Towson MD. He and his girlfriend had started a soup kitchen, Manna House, in Baltimore to feed the hungary. We were new to UU, and I admired how such a young man could do such a thing. It was the beginning of a life of service to the oppressed.

- Hank Obremski

5/16/2005
Greg and I partnered through a number of cases over a lot of years from Cape Cod before his accident to Kalamazoo near the time of his passing. I cannot capture in words the magnitude of our loss, but I wish to join in you in reflection.

- Howard Bellman

5/19/2005
Dawn Desert Hike in Tucson W/5/25
If you'd like to join us for a dawn hike in Greg's memory, please e-mail (ccook@adamantaccord.com) me or call (Office: 802-223-1330, cell 802-272-2829) so we'll now roughly how many people to plan for. I'll post details at the confernce recption desk. The tentative plan is to leave from the lobby of the Hilton Conquestador at 4:15 (!). Please let me know if you have a car, and if so, how many passengers you can take. We have access to a large van, so s...Read the full post

- Cindy

5/20/2005
The last time I saw Greg was at the EPP Sector meeting in Portland. Somehow, our conversation turned to his mother (I too had been at the huge gathering in her home when the Sector met in Baltimore) and he spoke about his admiration for her. “Especially her strength at facing so many of life's challenges," he said. As much as Greg has inspired so many of us, let us remember that a deep source of inspiration for him was that wonderful woman. May she take some comfort from knowing that she is...Read the full post

- Andy Sachs

5/23/2005
And so I have to learn
to swim inside my dreams
in case the sea should come
and visit me in my sleep.

I knew Greg through First Parish. We shared poems, sayings and he gave me a book that I treasure. I think of him often and still cry when I think of his pain. I walk through his woods often and wish him peace.

- Beth Rust

5/25/2005
all of us joined by rememberences of greg. i read the post every morning and now as the day of the service in baltimore draws near and i have to make a lot of decisions it is grat to hear all your voices joan

- joan

5/28/2005
Dear Joan:
On Wednesday, about 20 of Greg’s many, many friends and colleagues from all over the country gathered together on a promontory in the Arizona desert. We joined hands and invoked warm memories of Greg as the dawn rose and a full moon hovered above the blooming cacti. It felt like an appropriate way to celebrate a man who touched our lives so profoundly.

- Cindy Cook

5/30/2005
I just found this site, after hearing about Greg from my father, and have spent the last hour with my childhood memories of Greg. He lived in a house whose backyard shared a border with ours, and he was my best friend for five or six years until, being the older by two years, he was in junior high school and our interests diverged. For those years he was like the older brother I didn't have, and the lessons I learned from him are surely part of my self in ways I don't even realize. I rememb...Read the full post

- David Meyer

6/3/2005
I cannot count myself among Greg's good friends, having only met him on a few occasions when he returned to Baltimore and visited his childhood church. But I do count him among those that have had a lasting impression on me, first by listening to him talk to the congregation at TUUC about his accident and the question "why me?" that arose for him and others who are dealing with the "bad stuff that happens." Greg also impressed me when he shared his unabashed respect and honor for his mother, ...Read the full post

- Catherine Morris

6/6/2005
I only knew Greg when we were teenagers and haven't seen him in over 20 years. We met when we were about 14 at a teenage summer camp in New York state called Somerhill. A group of us became very close friends and he used to make frequent trips up to NY to visit throughout the year. Greg was the first boy that I ever had a really close, platonic friendship with. He was so warm and affectionate. We'd have long phone conversations talking about everything under the sun, the way teenagers will do....Read the full post

- Maxine Gerber

6/8/2005
Received this very bad news a day or two ago, with shock. I had not seen Greg in at least 10 years, but had come to know him in the late 1980's-early 1990's as a friend and fellow environmentalist. He overwhelmed me with his positive life force and commitment to better the world and himself. Eventually each of us married, and we did not stay in touch except for occasional helloes through mutual friends. I had heard about his terrible accident but had not seen him afterward. Struggling with...Read the full post

- Diane Langley

6/8/2005
Gregory was married to my sister Elizabeth at one time. They loved the Sudbury House. When we stayed there we heard the bull frogs all night. We took many nature walks there and saw many animals including the Great Blue Heron. My sons Ben and Evan loved Greg and would climb on his lap readily. Gregory loved kids. We had many good times with Greg and Elizabeth and my family especially the holidays. Gregory was close with the rabbi who married Elizabeth and Gregory.

- Helane Altman Broad

6/8/2005
I had the pleasure of meeting Greg when I joined SPIDR more than 10 years ago. I remember and appreciate his interest and encouragement to me as I started my career in environmental DR. Our paths only crossed at the annual and mid-year conferences and it was always wonderful to see him and talk. I know he was very loved by a wide circle of family and friends and he will be missed terribly. My mother died in April after a long illness; I would like to share a poem a dear friend sent that was ...Read the full post

- Catherine McCracken

6/8/2005
Dear Joan
My sisters and I just learned the tragic news of Greg's passing. He was a wonderful person. He and Elizabeth shared many great journeys around the world, places most people only dream of, Greg & Elizabeth experienced. Our family shared many fond memories with Greg, hikes in Sudbury, listening to the bullfrogs, planting flowers and enjoying life.
The car accident that caused Greg so much pain, was a tragedy to us as well.
He will be missed by us all.
Wendy, Bob, Alex &...Read the full post

- Wendy Altman Brown

6/10/2005
Dear Joan...and all Greg's many friends,
It is early June and we *just* learned of his death and feel utterly stunned and grief-stricken. He was both a gentle and a gregarious soul. When he was married to our dear friend Elizabeth Altman, they became godparents to our first son, Wes...it was a delight to see how tender and playful he was with the child. He once gave Wes a colorful pop-out picture book about a bullfrog...which reminded us all of his Sudbury home.
The accident was a ...Read the full post

- Teri, Shawn, Wes and Tristan Dunn

6/12/2005
Gregory was married to my dear friend, Elizabeth Altman Golding, and though I have not met him, I remember wonderful stories about the Sudbury days. May he rest in peace.

- Barbara Lamb Hall, San Mateo, CA

6/13/2005
Greg was my first love, when I was 13 and he was 14. We met through camp Somerhill. He lived in Baltimore and I lived in Brooklyn, and I wrote long, passionate letters to him every day. He came to visit me in Brooklyn, as a surprise for my 14th birthday that May. I will always remember his warmth, his deep, big, blue eyes, those sweet, completely innocent, first-teenage kisses.

I became a professional modern dancer and he went to law school, but we remained good friends. When we were...Read the full post

- Rachel Fishman Green

6/23/2005
Many thanks to Jonathan Raab for setting up this web site. Thank you Karen Sontag for contacting me. Reading the entries is a way to keep Greg alive in our minds, to remember him, honor him. When I joined the MA Office of Dispute Resolution he had been working there for some time, and he was enthusiastic about sharing what he knew and exploring new paths for the organization. Always with a smile and with fabulous energy. His enthusiasm and dedication to his colleagues, the field of dispute res...Read the full post

- Fredie Kay

6/25/2005
Greg,
I'll never forget that day on 495. I knew how much pain you were in. Rest in peace my friend. I will always miss you.
Forever,

- your Guardian Angel

6/26/2005
I was so saddened to read of Greg's death in the Boston Globe yesterday. I worked with Greg when he was at MODR and always remembered him with great respect and fondness. My thoughts and prayers are with his family and friends.

- Madeline Snow

7/1/2005
Joan -

I was a friend of Greg's in Bellingham and was referred to his whereabouts by a mutual friend in Boston last year. Greg and I were exchanging voice messages to reconnect when I got the sad news.

In Bellingham we both ran for the Assciated Students' Board of Directors for the two "At-Large" positions. We campaigned together and enjoyed eachothers company in serving our peers in those positions for the year. He was elected to the at-large position 10 and I was elected t...Read the full post

- David Nightingale, Olympia Washington

7/8/2005
Hi

Although I never met Greg, his spirit seemed everywhere when our band traveled out to Sudbury for the sole purpose of giving him a New Orleans style send off. Thanks for letting us take part in that event.

Don Stevenson
Snare Drummer for The Second Line Social Aid And Pleasure Society Brass Band.

7/11/2005
Don, you and your band were indeed "social aid" and "pleasure." Greg would've loved it! Thanks again to all.

7/13/2005
While I had known Greg by reputation for several years before we became friends, I was lucky enough to get to know him in person during the years I spent in Boston. I was even lucky enough to serve on a facilitation team with him out on Cape Cod, where I got to see him work. Greg embodied everything I love about the dispute resolution field: a warm heart, a sharp intellect, and a caring soul. We shared several meals over the years (from Mexican food in San Diego to omlettes in Lexington) and ...Read the full post

- Colin Rule

7/23/2005
I knew Greg for a brief period when he facilitated meetings for teams I was on at the Massachusetts Military Reservation (MMR) in the mid to late 1990s. Not only was he very professional, he was also sincere and compassionate. After he left I missed his involvement very much. He was a kindred spirit looking to bring resolution to difficult environmental challenges and his manner impressed me very much. I wish I had had a chance to know him better. Greg, you will be remembered.

- Phil Goddard

8/7/2005
I also knew Greg from Camp Somerhill in the early 70s. He was a lovely guy, funny, warm and generous. I didn't know him after those summers, but I'm glad to see he lived a full and rich life, and saddened to hear of his passing. (Maxine Gerber, good lord, is that you? If it is, email me: dojafi@mac.com.)

- Doug Fischer

8/24/2005
It's very hard to say goodbye.

I knew Greg over 30 years ago at Camp Somerhill in upstate New York. We were very close at that time but lost contact and hadn't seen each other since then. Never the less, I am deeply affected by hearing of Greg's death. When I can't, as in this case, put my deepest feelings into words, songs sometimes say what I can't say myself. It is fitting to quote James Taylor, who Greg and I listened to together all those years ago.

I've seen fire and I...Read the full post

- Arlene Immerman

9/17/2005
Dear Greg-Friends:
A couple thoughts as September and fall bring a seasonal change four months+ since Greg stepped into the river.
First, I'm glad to see that Greg is still connecting people, as I note the posts from Arlene and Doug. We'd rather have Greg with us, but it gives me hope that as one soul passes on, it causes old guitar strings to be strummed and the chords bring long lost connections alive again.

Second, how do you carry memory forward? How do we not dwell on loss, b...Read the full post

- John of Durham NC

9/20/2005
On Saturday I was driving across MA on the Pike heading toward my first kayak race in Stockbridge. As I was crossing the CT River, I was listening to a mix of songs an old camp friend sent me, when James Taylor's "Fire and Rain" came on about his dear friend that committed suicide ("And I always thought I'd see you again"). While pulled over to reflect and get myself together I happened to check my email, where John of Durham's sweet email above was copied to me. A vortex of coincidences a...Read the full post

- Jonathan Raab

9/22/2005
All: Another change of seasons is upon us, and I think of Greg always at the change of seasons. He so honored the seasons, and loved the change to Fall. Last time I spoke with him, it was the first day of Spring, and we laughed about how he loves Spring, then Summer, then Fall....

How do we carry memory forward? Each in our own ways, I suppose. My children have kept his memory alive recently, asking about his picture from the June 3 service that I keep near my desk; my oldest remembe...Read the full post

- Barbara Stinson, Colorado

10/10/2005
I stumbled across this website after having stumbled across Greg's name somewhere on the internet and doing some Googling to follow his trail. Wow. Greg and I were friends in junior high, and I haven't seen him since the early 70s. All these messages are choking me up, because I remember Greg as a sweet, kind, friendly adolescent with a huge intellect and sense of purpose far beyond his years. It doesn't surprise me a bit that he turned into this extraordinary human being you've all desc...Read the full post

- Kim Johnson

11/3/2005
I was very shocked to read in Western Washington University's Alumni magazine, of Greg's passing. I worked with Greg for several years as one of his advisors on the Associated Student's Board of Directors. I over 30 years of working with exceptional students, Greg continues to come to mind when I think of the best of best. He was loved and will be remembered.

- Jim Schuster, Director of Viking Union Facilities

11/7/2005
I also read of Greg's passing in the Western Alumni magazine that arrived today. I knew Greg at Western when I became involved in the student government in the years immediately following Greg's ASB Presidency. I am sure that years afterward, Greg's example was still the standard by which student leaders at Western were evaluated. His willingness to challenge authority while keeping all parties engaged in meaningful dialogue left a strong impression on me.

I ran into Greg about 10 min...Read the full post

- Soren Ryherd, Providence RI

11/9/2005
Greg was a college sweetheart of mine. I didn't deserve him. He truly was a fabulous man and I'm in a little bit of shock. I was just thinking of him last week...thinking we should call him up and talk a little and laugh a lot.

I want to say thank you to his mother Joan. What a gem he was.

- Cynthia Weichman, Jackson WY

11/10/2005
As I thought last night, my head on a pillow too hard, I remembered my friendship with Greg. I called him a sweetheart, because that sums up his character. We did date for a time, but we were not lovers. We were very good friends. For a time he lived at the recycling center at Western. It was a nice house for college students devoted to the environment. He shared it with two or more others. I remember him cooking a dinner for me there, while outside was the clanging*crashing*crunching of th...Read the full post

- Cynthia, Wyoming

11/11/2005
I was what you could call Greg's political nemesis when he was student body president at Western Washington University. In short, I was a jerk to him most of the time, to put it mildly. Many years later I was diagnosed with clinical depression, the onset of which became pronounced in early adulthood. Unfortunately, Greg took some of that. Yet throughout it all, Greg remained a good man. I only wish I had know we lived in the same part of the country. I would have contacted him and given the mos...Read the full post

- D. R. Scott

11/11/2005
11/11/05
I am so sad to hear of Greg's death, but enlivened by the beautiful memories and notes here. I want to extend my deepest sympathies to Greg's mother Joan and all of Greg's family and friends. I was one of Greg's teenage romances
from Camp Somerhill and always enjoy my happy memories of Greg's sweetness and generous spirt. Greg would visit me in Brooklyn (I see from this site that Greg had a few other Brooklyn girlfriends !) and sleep in the basement
of my family's home...Read the full post

- Ann Schneider, Brooklyn New York

11/28/2005
It has taken me a couple of weeks to process the emotions I've had since learning of Greg's death. I haven't been in touch with him since '83 so it surprises me that I am so upset that I'll never be able to talk to him again. After reading some of the messages from people who knew him in recent years I can see that he was as I remembered him, compassionate; generous with his time; a mediator; strong in his beliefs yet understanding of other perspectives; and fun. He hasn't been in my life ...Read the full post

- Therese (Viator) Ashton

1/18/2006
I just learned Greg died as I tried to find him so I could get his experience in getting dual degrees because my daughter is thinking of doing that. I knew him in law school. He had the ability to bring out the best people could produce in themselves, and he used that facility with me to help organize the first year class in a kind of union which advocated benefits for its members. We could have used the time to better prepare for our classes, but it seemed important at the time. I am not su...Read the full post

- Jim Lang

2/5/2006
I met Greg my freshman year at Western Washington Univ in 1981 and spent the next two years with him. Greg profoundly changed my life through his passion for the environment and social change. He questioned authority. He advocated for the underdog. He thought deeply. He loved life and took in all its contradictions and wonderful oddities.
I hadn't spoken to Greg since the mid-eighties but in 2003 I tried to contact him to tell him how lucky I was to have had him in my life, and how proud ...Read the full post

- Darcy (Roenfeldt) Boddy

3/13/2006
I also fondly remember Greg from Camp Somerhill, as I remember the others who've posted on this site. I am reminded of the line, "the long life is not necessarily the good life; but the good life is always long enough." Bon voyage old friend.

- Jeffrey Antman

3/20/2006
I just found out about Greg, and about this page. I am still in shock about it. I have remembered Greg for many years, since I knew him when he was the President of the Student Body at Western in Bellingham, WA. Greg and I dated briefly and I never forgot him -- what passion, what leadership, what incredible charm he had. I still have vivid memories of him walking through campus, always handing out some flyer or fighting some cause. People would whisper when they saw him, and talk about him -- ...Read the full post

- Lauri (Reed) Hennessey,

5/14/2006
I was stunned and so saddened to hear just last week about Greg's passing. I was just in Boston, visiting a friend from Northeastern Law School and heard the sad news. I met Greg the day before law school started. He, Seth, Ken, and Evester were the male law students living in a cute brownstone owned by Northeastern for grad student housing. I lived in the apartment upstairs with the female law students Doreen, Shelley and CeCe. Ever the organizer, Greg greeting us all as we moved into our new ...Read the full post

- Nancy J. Kerrigan, NULS ''86

6/23/2006
Am thinking of Greg today, his birthday.

- Rachel Fishman Green

6/23/2006
Thank you Rachel, for initiating momentum on this website on this, Greg's 49th Birthday. I am sure there are plenty of us who check regularly for new entries, but for whatever reason, decline to speak... I am certainly one of those, with my last entry well over a year ago.

OH! - the party we should be having for him - with him - this coming week, as so many of his friends and colleagues converge in Boston for the ACR-EPP Conference! Knowing how he would relish the experience of havin...Read the full post

- Kimberly Vogel

6/28/2006
By cosmic coincidence, I noticed Greg's tribute in the Summer 05 ACR magazine as I was tearing out the tribute to my husband, a Vermont mediator who was catastrophically brain injured in 03. Greg and I were classmates at Northeastern. I was terribly sorry to learn of his death. I hadn't seen him since law school, and did not know of his spectacular success as a mediator . . . but it doesn't surprise me one bit. Greg and I negotiated a mock settlement in a mock mediation in our 1st year Legal ...Read the full post

- Cathy (Tosh) Suskin NULS 86

8/31/2006
It seems not such a long time ago that Greg left us in this world...as another entry stated earlier, I do visit here when I run across some work thing or another that Greg would have found interesting and remember him. His strenght and wisdom goes on in all of us that knew him. Sorry I missed his birthday because I would have surely raised a glass.

He is missed.

- Lynne Welsh, Devens MA

9/13/2006
Would you believe, Greg, that I think of you everyday? Me, your rather distant relative? But it is not the bonds of blood that remind me of you each morning. It is a little bag with a shaving kit which you sent me years ago. I have used it till now. Funny, isn't it? This little reminder revives my memory. We lived four thousand miles apart, saw each other just a few times and exchanged not more than a couple of letters, but your attitude to life was close to mine. I always remember your sense ...Read the full post

- Peter Goldstein, Warsaw, Poland

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